“Wooooooooooooo! Wow. Wow! WOW! Dave, wasn’t that the most awesome rush you’ve ever had? That was amazing!?”
This is my brother-in-law, Melvin, running up to me as my parachute drops down behind me. Despite the hours of training we have had, my landing is far from graceful. My feet hit the ground after falling thousands of feet, and instead of converting my landing into a standing run, like they explained, my feet forget to move under my own power. I hit the ground in a heap, and I’m lucky I don’t bruise my tailbone.
A little shaken, I’m still thrilled with what I just did: I leapt out of a plane on my own. I have skydived. It took everything I had in me to step out of that airplane and to be hit with a Mac Truck of wind power – and then to let go. Total and utter insanity. But I did it. In the moment, I’m truthfully fucking thrilled – and know I’ll be content to tell the story of how I went sky diving “that one time” until my final days.
“Alright. Let’s go again!”
I look at Melvin at disbelief. He’s not joking. He’s just got a wide-eyed, shit-eating smile. He couldn’t be happier, and I know my day is about to get longer.

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It’s a week or two before Christmas. We sit around the kitchen table of our friends, Mark and Amy, and look at the amazing array of dishes she has laid out. I’m salivating, but force myself to get my two boys, Luke and Liam, properly settled in their own chairs before I break into my Christmas dinner.
Dave Hare, who sits next to me at the table, passes a bowl of rolls, and flashes a smile. “The kids, they love hanging out together, eh?”
Both Dave and Jane (his lovely wife)’s children and our children go to Amy through the weekdays. She’s our collective day home provider. Amy has invited us all over to a celebratory dinner at her beautiful home, and has a special gift for all of us after dinner comes to a close. We watch as Luke stands up in the living room alongside the other older kids, Maddy and Lily (“they’re my good friends, Daddy”) and continue to sing and recite a routine that brings tears of joy to all of our faces. I look over at my wife, Erin. She’s beaming. I look over at Dave. He couldn’t be prouder.
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‘Why do you have so many bags?”
This is a pretty Inuit girl, Cheyenne, with a huge mischievous smile. She and her sister have followed me to my room as I’m checking in at the South Camp Inn in Resolute Bay, Nunavut, owned by Resolute businessman Aziz Kheriaj. I’m staying the night en route to Arctic Bay, where I will teach a workshop.
I look at the girls. They’re laughing, and quickly ignore my bags to show me the elliptical trainer in the room, each taking a step while they bounce and glide back and forth on the trainer, shrieking in laughter. After five minutes of arranging my bags, ignoring them while I gather my thoughts on the workshop I’m going to teach, I scoot them out of my room, but not before she smiles once again, and says “dinner is very soon – come on down!”
I walk into the dining area about ten minutes later. It’s like stepping back in time. Ten years ago, in 2002, I sat in this kitchen the day I moved north from Nova Scotia. For the first couple of nights, my wife and I were guests in the hotel, and then we moved into a small apartment, also owned by Aziz (known to everyone as Ozzie). I have spent a lot of time in this dining room, and I’m a little surprise, so many years later, to still see some familiar faces.
First, Mike. As he finishes chewing a bite of salad, he looks up from his plate. He recognizes me immediately, and stands to shake my hand. “Dave!, What brings you here”. Mike, a kind Newfoundlander with silver hair, has been coming to Resolute for what seems like forever. One of Ozzie’s workcrew: a collection of mainly Newfoundland men who have been loyal to him for years, and have come back year after year on seasonal stints to do many tasks for Ozzie, who has diverse business interests in the community.
I’m happy to see Mike. I always liked him: a voice of reason and a demeanor of calmness in a place that’s far from ordinary.
I turn to grab my plate and am met by the million-watt smile of Randy, a big, burly man with Bahamian roots (if memory serves me correctly). Randy, like Mike, has been a fixture in Resolute for years and years. He served me my first meal in Resolute a decade prior, and now he’s serving me again.
I shoot the shit with both of them, the girls still giggling in a corner. I left Resolute years earlier with mixed feelings—I both loved and hated the place—but in this moment, as I sat there eating my food and staring out the window at the big snow-swept hill which cradles Resolute in its base (which I would later trek up that afternoon), I thought, “I miss this place”.
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February 14th, 2002. About 7 months before we would eventually move to Resolute from Nova Scotia, our eastern home. Erin and I were living in Halifax, in an apartment in Clayton Park.
Our phone rings not long after we have finished celebrating Valentine’s Day together as a fairly newlywed couple. It was a great day, and we’re relaxing on our sofa, watching the TV.
I answer it. It’s my father. He wastes no time.
Dave….it’s Melvin. He’s dead. His plane went down….”
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Summer, 2011.
I’ve been bouncing around Yellowknife on a brilliant, beautiful summer day, photographing the wedding of a great couple that I’ve gotten to know over the past couple of years. I have just finished the last of their “romantic” pictures—the period after the ceremony and after the family shots when I can just head out into the town and photograph the couple, by themselves, away from the madness of their wedding day,
It was successful, and I drive back down to the Explorer Hotel ahead of them, I have earned myself a short 15-minute break in the wedding coverage, and plan on sitting in the air conditioning of my Explorer in the hotel’s parking lot, sitting an ice-cold Diet Pepsi which Erin has lovingly packed me, and reading the news on my iPhone.
A headline grabs me: “First Air Flight downed in Resolute Bay, at least six casualties”. My heart stops.
Fuck.
Resolute. First Air. Both have been so much a part of my experience in the north. One, my former community of two years. The second, an airline that I’ve flown countless times in my decade of working and travelling in the north. I’ve done photoshoots for them. I’ve written and photographed extensively for their in-flight magazine. I know at least three or four dozen members of the First Air family: pilots, flight crew, counter agents. It’s a small town; a small Territory, population-wise, and I know immediately that I’m going to know some of the names.
I log onto Facebook and start reading through the posts, the offers of solitude, and the speculation. And then, in my truck, I start coming across names. For the rest of the wedding, I’m a bit of a mess, fighting tears. I try not to let it show – the wedding couple knows nothing about the crash…I don’t want to be the one to ruin their day.
I later confirm that it’s Dave. Mike. The girl with the smile. Cheyenne. Randy. All gone.
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I write this now, as the summer that will mark a tear’s passing since these tragedies comes upon us quickly. This year was ten years since Melvin died. My sister has not fared well since his passing; he died on Valentine’s Day.
Yesterday I flew, yet again, aboard a tiny Northern airplane en route to the EKATI Diamond Mine. I picked up a copy of one of my favourite magazines, the Yellowknife-produced Up Here magazine., and after flipping through a few of the articles, came to one called “The Aftermath”, by an acquaintance, Katherine Laidlaw.
The article, about the aftermath of the First Air crash, along with two others that occurred in the Northwest Territories within weeks of the First Air crash, was brilliantly written and poignant. Sensitive. And it shook me. I was glad everyone on the plane was in an early morning, groggy stupor, as they would have seen me chocking back tears.
If you have the chance, read this article (online at http://www.uphere.ca/node/788 ). Katherine, you should be proud for writing something so intimate, and so touching.
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We’re a small community here in the north. The Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon would be reduced to three, or even two, in the North. The people I have mentioned. Friend and fellow photographer Michael Ericsson was in one of the crashes following the First Air crash: he has a smashed femur and a snakelike scar on his forehead. Although I did not know her personally, one of my client’s daughters died, too, in the Resolute Crash. The list, implausibly, goes on and on.
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My younger brother Stephen, is—at this moment—completing his own flight training as part of the Canadian Forces. He is the prototypical “all-Canadian” guy: handsome, smart (a Rhodes Scholar, he is getting his doctorate from Oxford University), and a dedicated family man, father to two adorable children.
A small part of me has fear: fear for the possibility of something bad happening to him. But as soon as these feelings come up, I am quick to push them away. I believe in him following his dreams, but more so I believe in him.
I’ve always said I believe in things happening for a reason, but try as I might I can’t imagine the reason behind any of the loss mentioned above.
I’m not sure why I’m even writing this now, other than the fact that reading Katherine’s article brought up a wave of emotion. I’m good to take things in stride, but this time, something was lost in my stride. By writing this, I guess I’m trying to come to terms with some of the hurt over the past decade. My brother, Melvin (he was more than an “in law” to me). My northern home. The connectedness of life. To carry on. In memory.